How to Develop Self Love and Improve Self Esteem in an Increasingly Negative World
Life can be tough. At times, it can seem like we have no power to control our emotions, our environment, or the increasingly negative world in which we all live. We live in a society that is ravaged by crime, poverty, addiction, stress, and distraction. In order to effectively live within this rapidly modernizing and declining social and economic structure, we must first realize that we are all equipped with all of the necessary tools to begin developing a set of simple practices that can have immediate positive effects on ourselves, our environment, our relationships, and our perceptions by which we view the world.
Self Empowerment Begins with Self Love
Before entering into any type of practice, it is important to begin doing the practices that can teach your subconscious and conscious minds to work in unison toward the goal of increasing your self love and self esteem. Many historical teachings, philosophies, and spiritual doctrines hint at this as well. In fact, it is nearly impossible to enjoy your life or your relationships with others unless you develop a solid sense of self worth, appreciation, and love for yourself. Although it may appear at times that this can be difficult in our current world and state of affairs, it is definitely achievable through a few simple to understand principles.
The Mirror Exercise – 5 Minutes of Mastery
Many philosophers, religious leaders, successful individuals, and relationship counselors have hinted on the power of the eyes as being the “gateway into the soul”. Think about falling in love or making successful communication with another. Think of the way it can feel when you look into the eyes of another or when your loved ones look deeply into your eyes.
As you stare into your own eyes each morning or evening before bed, you need to develop a sense of love and compassion for yourself. You need to accept your flaws, you need to honestly and earnestly look into your own eyes the same way you would of your lover or someone you deeply cared for.
Then, while gazing into your own eyes, begin to compliment your self with honest compliments about all of the things within yourself that you could love. Even if you think there is nothing about yourself that you could love, I am certain that if you thought about it you COULD easily find things about yourself, qualities, that are worthy and deserving of appreciation, love, and respect.
The key part of this practice is to come up with genuine compliments that actually highlight a real quality, not just empty compliments like “you’re awesome”, or “you’re sexy”. They must be real compliments.
If you have a good work ethic, you could say “I love you because of the way you so diligently work toward and achieve your tasks”. If you help others, then you could say “I love you for the way you jump in and try to help others each and every day”. If you are intelligent, or perceive yourself to be, you could say “I love you for your increasing intellect and your great problem solving skills”.
When you attach honest meaning to a compliment, it has a dramatic effect on the retention of this in your subconscious. Through life, we respond to positive compliments the most and they more readily burned into our memory by how they make us feel. When you practice this same concept on yourself you bolster your self-esteem and self love in ways that no external source could EVER provide.